Not everyone can see eye to eye with their partner’s family. It could be for many reasons, but a major one is the lack of respect. And that’s exactly the issue this lady felt with her boyfriend’s family when it came to her being a vegan. She ignored it at first until this one family dinner when things got pretty messy. Content has been edited for clarity purposes.
Family Dinner Gone Wrong
“I’ve been vegan for 10 years and vegetarian for 3 before that. One thing to know is that after not eating meat, a person can’t jump right back into eating a lot of it without some… Seriously unpleasant digestive issues. It has to be reintroduced slowly.
I found that out by chance when I actually got drunk at a bonfire party got confused between the veg chili and meat chili, and spent the next day and a half fighting for my life on the toilet. Or another time I had a stew with meat by accident, and it came out both ends at the same time… That was fun to clean.
After these experiences, I’ve decided that if I ever eat meat by accident again I’m just gonna have a quick puke because at least that’s better than a day or 2 of stomach issues.
So last week, I was visiting my boyfriend and his family. And his parents and brother have always given me shit for being vegan, they crack jokes about it all the time. But this week they were kinda pleasant and on the last day said they’d made me a meatless family recipe. This pasta with chunky red sauce with a bunch of veggies and stuff. It was kinda weird tasting but I was polite about it when they asked and I said I liked it.
Then his dad said, ‘Ha! Did you hear her? She said she liked it!’
And the whole family except my boyfriend and I were acting like it was some big joke.
Then his dad revealed it had ground beef in the sauce.
I immediately thought, ‘Goddamnit.’ Because I had a 4-hour flight the next morning and I did not want to spend it blowing up the airplane bathroom.
So I said, ‘Excuse me,’ and walked to the bathroom.
His family was like, ‘WTF?’
So as a bit of an answer to them, I didn’t shut the door when I did what I was about to do, have a puke.
It was a little dramatic honestly but I’d rather it come out once easily than unpleasantly on the plane or bus, especially because the bus has no bathrooms.
His family was getting mad at me for throwing up with the door open because my boyfriend’s brother’s kid daughter got grossed out and puked on the floor too.
I was pissed off but decided it was better to spend my energy puking. So I said, ‘Better out than in, right?’
I bounced and my boyfriend came with me, though he had been trying to talk to his family before I put my foot down and said I was out with or without him.
He was mad at his family for obvious reasons but he’s also kinda upset with me for how I handled stuff. Feeling like making everyone hear and see me retch, not cleaning up the ‘splatter,’ and then heading out fairly wordlessly.
I was like, ‘Nah, I handled it fine. I wasn’t being dramatic. I didn’t wanna be blowing up the airplane toilet tomorrow. And the splatter? They’re damn lucky it wasn’t coming from the other end.’
At that point, I started laughing at the idea which made my boyfriend madder. He was saying that kinda vile stuff was messed up.
I eventually said, ‘Chill! It’s a joke!’
He’s upset with me for that, I’m mad at his family, and I’m wondering…
AITA for puking after my boyfriend’s family tricked me into eating meat? Even though I’m vegan and it would cause digestive hell for me?”
