The Music Man And The Date
Musicians are always looking for an opportunity to create new music and if they get the chance to share and collaborate with someone even better. One musician found himself with what he thought was a possible collab with an artist but ended up in the middle of a date that quickly turned ridiculous.
Our author, let’s call him Jimmy, was a musician on the rise. His performances and unique look had gained him more and more notoriety in his town. He had left his contact information online, so when he woke one morning at 7 am to an email from a woman he’d never met before, he wasn’t freaked out.
“In the email, she says she is interested in collaborating and I took it as a huge compliment. It’s always nice when strangers recognize my work. I respond asking her to send me some clips so I could gauge our project and she immediately asks to meet in person, which even for me (who doesn’t have the best definition of boundaries) was a little too fast.”
He ended up connecting with the stranger through Facebook where he learned that she had heard him perform once, but was being mysterious about where and when. He also learned that she worked for a college radio station which sparked the hopes of maybe some free publicity!
After he sent some of his “work in progress” demos, he received a very positive response to them from the mystery girl. The two made plans to meet at a coffee shop that weekend.
“When I get to the coffee shop, she messages me saying that she no longer wants to meet there. That’s fine, things happen. It goes from there, to the mall which is a mile away and I am walking, to a specific store in the middle of the mall which we were supposed to meet. I still have no clue who this person is or what they look like.”
Once he arrived at the FINAL meeting place, he began to feel for the first time, that maybe this was all a bit silly. That’s when the girl appeared.
After the initial greeting, Jimmy decided the girl seemed nice so they began their walk to the coffee shop. Unfortunately for Jimmy things started to feel weird. This whole thing felt like a date. He decided that he had to start figuring some things out about this mystery girl. He asked her again about where she had seen him before and she finally decided to spill the beans. She was a friend of one of his ex’s.
“Normally blind dates are awkward but there was something weird about her, she would begin her sentences about topics not even closely related to what we were even discussing and would gradually lower the volume of her voice at the end of her sentences so I could not hear her. She walked really close to me and seemed very nervous, she also didn’t mention a word about music.”
Despite feeling an urge to bail on the whole thing, Jimmy decided to press on.
It’s All About You!
Once they reached the crowded coffee shop, they were seated in a small booth in the quietest area available.
“I learned that she actually did do a radio show, but she had no intention of doing anything with me that involved that. She also had only performed music once or twice, and had no idea what to do project wise, (which is fine, most people have a hard time conceptualizing music if they haven’t done it yet but she did not even provide any idea).”
The conversation continued, but she still didn’t share much about herself. Instead, she just asked personal questions and stared. Jimmy decided that they should leave the noisy coffee shop and go back to his place. He still hoped to get things back on track and maybe record some things with her.
Everything Is TOTALLY Going Well…
On the way to her car, Jimmy decided maybe he should tell her that he had a Friends With Benefits relationship with a girl he knew so he could be completely open and honest with her. She took the news completely fine. He then found out that this girl who was so interested in creating music had brought a broken guitar with her that she couldn’t even play. This is where the red flags started to spring up, but our “glass half full” Jimmy shook off his disappointment and got in the car with her.
“It was on the ride home that she started asking me a lot of personal questions, especially about my ‘open relationship’ and my ex-girlfriends. I tried to answer them vaguely but in the end, I just talked so she wouldn’t keep asking me questions. I have a bad habit of over-sharing information also with strangers, and I want to point out that I DEFINITELY did this here. She seemed okay and generally curious. It wasn’t weird until she told me to abandon my friend, and not speak to her. She said she was a bad person and all these other things. I agreed so we would stop talking about it.”
The oversharing seemed to relax Jimmy and despite her strange questions, the suggestion that he dump his friend, and her overall sketchiness, things seemed to be going well.
This Was A Mistake
When they arrived at the apartment Jimmy was prepared to get to work on the collaboration and to see what she had brought with her – lyrics, a poem, anything. Instead, they ended up cuddling and making out. Oh, Jimmy. He did end up playing the guitar for her, but it had nothing to do with their collaboration.
She then asked Jimmy if he’d like to come with her to a work meeting and then home with her for the night. With all the bonding they had done so far, Jimmy agrees to go.
“I got into her car and I almost immediately knew I had done the wrong thing, but by the time I realized this it was too late.”
That Escalated Quickly
In the car, the questions continued, and Jimmy opened up even more. He was a veritable chatterbox! He realized suddenly, that they were nowhere near close to where her meeting was supposed to be and they had to be there in ten minutes. He kept talking though as she kept asking the questions.
“Maybe thirty seconds after I responded to a question she told me to, ‘shut up’, ‘stop talking’ and, ‘I hope your open mic gets canceled‘. I was sort of shocked and confused about what to do next. She suddenly stopped the car short and screamed that we were in front of her ex-boyfriend’s house and she was going to be late. I was making her late.
I stopped talking for the most part besides trying to explain that I wouldn’t have come if I was getting in her way, I was only responding to her questions. I was sorry if I was inconveniencing her. Regardless it didn’t matter what I said, I was wrong to her and I was not respecting how important her job was to her.”
She miraculously calmed down suddenly dropped him off at their decided upon area. At this point, he was 30 minutes from home but had no money to get there. He waited an hour and she came back to pick him up. Having the hour to think about it, the situation seemed so messed up and hilarious.
When she came back to pick Jimmy up, things were suddenly different. The girl’s attitude had done a 180. She even greeted him with a kiss when he got in the car. Jimmy isn’t comfortable at all even after she asks to hold his hand. This girl was driving really, really slowly and he was just rambling on – as we know Jimmy liked to do – to try and fill the awkward silence. The anxiety was starting to build in him. Being a former drinker, he felt his old demons creeping back in. This woman made him want a drink – bad.
“She seemed very disappointed I wanted a drink, and that I wasn’t a serious Christian even though I believe in a central Godly spiritual power. She told me how she didn’t like my friends and how she hadn’t dated in a while.”
She Drives A Man To Drink
After they got to her apartment Jimmy decided to try and make a break for it. He told her he was going to get some drinks at the store. Unfortunately once free, he realized that there was no way for him to get home. So he decided to give into his demons and drink the night away.
When he got back to her apartment she was suddenly nervous and asked him not to drink. She wanted him to go get some air on the balcony despite it being the middle of winter. He did it, but he shotgunned two drinks to take the edge off.
“I went inside and tried to talk to her again about what happened earlier in the car. I wanted to apologize and see if we could reach a middle ground that didn’t involve her yelling at me about it, or maybe let me understand her perspective more. What followed was mostly me being blamed for her almost being late and not being considerate of her priorities as her job was ‘very important’. She also accused me of being very inebriated and kept offering me books on Jesus to read when I told her I felt uncomfortable and wanted to go.”
As a last-ditch effort he looked at the bus schedule, but he was stuck there. She continued to blame him for everything and he just decided to play along and do as she said. In the end, he began thinking maybe he was actually inebriated.
The Body Of Christ
The night took a turn and she was all of a sudden all over him until the morning when it was time to be all over God. Jimmy hadn’t planned on going to church, but she manipulated him into going, and suddenly he found himself in a pew with a very handsy church mate.
“I love trying new experiences, but the body of Christ made me nauseous. I made a joke afterward that it did and that I think I might be a demon. She took me very seriously. When we left the priests approached her and asked her name as if they could not place it, then told me to come back. I lied and said I would.”
Freedom… Kind Of
They went from the church to the place where Jimmy would finally get to break free and leave this whole weird situation behind him. She began to talk about them being in a relationship and asked him questions like it was some kind of job interview.
“She talked about her ex-boyfriend who is in the Navy who stalked her and was upset that I did not get more out of the sermon. All the while her conversations heading randomly towards a different topic every couple sentences while lowering her voice at the end so I had to really listen to hear her. She also insisted that I stop talking to my friend, despite us having no communication about a relationship. She reminded me that she had the day off and we could spend it together but I very much wanted to go.”
The whole situation had become too much and after a kiss goodbye, Jimmy quickly got the heck out there.
“She texted me a smiley face maybe a half hour after dropping me off, then texted me again an hour later reminding me that she had the day off. I go home, sleep, and wake up feeling as if I was having multiple panic attacks.”
Things Turn Strictly Business
The girl called Jimmy a few times, but he decided not to answer. She says in her messages that she wants to discuss their project, though why they didn’t when they were together was beyond him. She does send lyrics, but they are only his songs with strange endings added on.
He decided that enough was enough and he emailed her. He let her down gently but said he’d still be interested in collaborating with her musically. She says no. When he pushed further, deciding to text her, she said she wanted him to call or email. When he does that she blows him off.
In the morning he discovered that she had responded to his email saying, in a very professional manner, that she does not want to work with him now or in the future. However, he could check in with her a month from the time of the email. Jimmy, not knowing when to let a sleeping dog lie, emailed her asking why she doesn’t want to get together. Oh, Jimmy.
“I responded asking her what has happened, to which she responded a day later with this email: I was robbed yesterday and I do not trust you. You shared the following information with me: You said that you had been robbed in the past on more than one occasion from people whom you knew. You said that you used to sell illegal substances. You shared self-harm behavior with me describing it as a ‘mood’. You sent me a text message after I asked you to not send me a text message. I provided you with resources for mental health. If you do not have any further questions, please do not contact me. If you are not sure whether the situation is a true emergency, officials recommend calling 911.”
The Weird Conclusion
The email completely confused Jimmy. She had taken tiny things he had said and twisted them into complete tall tales. Also, the whole being robbed thing through him for a loop. She refused to tell him what he robbed her of exactly, but it was just another piece of what had been an absolute nightmare of a few days.
“I enlisted my ex’s help (who is a sweet wonderful person) and suddenly my friends responded telling me to not hang out with that person, due to her own instability issues. I sent her an email expressing my sympathy for being robbed and that I’m not open to be in contact with her again. I hoped that everything would be fine and I did not blame her for not trusting me.
I found out recently that she had accused me of stealing her broken guitar and thought I had taken the bus up there to get it then 40 minutes back to my city. We haven’t spoken since and I sincerely hope we do not meet again.”