The older I get, and the longer I’ve been married, the less importance Valentine's Day has in my relationship. The best part about Valentine's Day (if you have been coupled for a while) is it serves as a reminder to go on a date or celebrate your relationship. This year, Valentine’s Day is the latest holiday to be altered by the pandemic and will be even harder to celebrate.
Quarantine is hard, marriage is hard. Put them together and what do you have? Little to no date nights, countless hours spent doom scrolling on your phones, binge-watching shows, working too much after hours, etc. So this Valentine's Day, I wanted to get back to the basics, check out of the devices and try* to have a little fun together.
The honeymoon phase of a relationship is great for many reasons but for me, I loved getting to know the other person’s past, all their stories, likes and dislikes, and everything in between. It can be tempting to think you know all there is to know about your partner that’s of interest, but this Valentine’s Day let’s get weird. Try talking, but not about heavy stuff, make it fun. My spouse and I were inspired by the New York Times' The 36 Questions That Lead to Love a few months ago and ended up having a perfect date night at home.
Remove stress and eliminate clean up duty by ordering out from a favorite local restaurant. Next, open a bottle of wine or your drink of choice, and each take turns playing DJ or select songs that remind you of your early years together. After eating, sit down and let the questions and conversations start flowing over dessert and drinks.
I sampled some of my favorites from the New York Times' list and picked a few others that inspire introspective discussion. I found the 36 questions from the Times too long to complete in one sitting. The following 16 questions are plenty to get you through one date night.